The Five Love Languages and My Love

The best part of being in love, is that you grow even more in love every day. There are so many things that Brian does that make me love him more and it literally makes my heart feel good when I think about these things. He has brought me so much happiness to my life that I don't even know how I considered myself happy before.

There is a book called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and it has become very popular in the last several years. There is an assessment that anyone can take so that they can discover what their main love lanuage is.There is Qualtity Time, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

I took the assessment and I actually have two...Quality Time and Physical Touch. This works great because Brian's main language is Physical Touch but his second is Quality Time. Although that is his main language, Brian shows me he loves me in so many ways. I can't help but have a wide smile when I think about all the wonderful things he has done in the last six months.

Since Brian and I are apart, the only way we can truly keep our relationship going is through technology. We have developed a wonderful habit of talking on the phone for almost an hour every night. And every weekend, we have at least one Skype date. Our favorite thing to do has been to get frozen yogurt and then eat it together on Skype. The time that we spend talking really lets me know that he loves me and I appreciate the effort he puts into our conversations.

During the day, Brian and I text message each other and he is just so sweet sometimes. He says the nicest things and gives me wonderful compliments that make me feel so good inside! We've also written letters to each other and I save every one from him and read them every once in a while because I love to see the words that tell me he loves me.

Our relationship began in December, right before all the gift-giving holidays, and Brian has given me wonderful gifts. I appreciate them so much because I like having something tangible to remind me of him. Of course, all my fantastic shoes were gifts from him and I love all the great compliments I get when I wear them. And oh my goodness...the beautiful rings I wear constantly are reminders of him every day. <3

Brian has come to see me twice while I've been in Rexburg. It is so amazing that he is willing to take time off of work and drive several hours to be with me for a weekend. (Not to mention, he doesn't complain when he gets stuck in Wyoming on the way home.) The first time he came up, he'd been there for just a little bit, but he got up and started doing my dishes while I was doing homework! It was so sweet of him! He is always doing little things that ensure that he is a keeper. :)

Let me just tell a little story...
We drove back to Rexburg with a friend a couple weeks ago. It's a 9-10 hour drive, but it turned into an all day trip because we were stuck in the Teton mountains for a while. (Snow?? At the end of May?? Ridiculous.) So anyway we were driving and Brian willingly held my hand almost the whole way! It was so wonderful! I kept on waiting for him to say that he didn't want to hold my hand anymore but then he would reach over and want to hold my hand! It is so difficult to be so far away sometimes because when I'm struggling or need a shoulder to cry on, Brian isn't there. I know that if he was here, his amazing hugs would comfort me and calm me down. Soon, I'll get to hug him all the time, every day and I can't wait! Oh and have you noticed all the kissing pictures of us? Yeah...that's because we love each other. Get used to it. ;)

The best part of all this is I know how Brian is, and I know that he's not going to stop doing all these things to show me he loves me. This isn't just a show that he's putting on and after we're married, he's going to stop. Nope, every day he'll be doing something to show me that he loves me.

Ingird Michaelson says it all: "Don't you worry there my honey, we may not have any money, but we've got our love to pay the bills."

We're so ridiculously in love. :)

Books, numbers and grades...what about the wedding?

When I think about it for a minute, it is so amazing to me that I have been in Idaho for almost six months and I am practically done with my sophomore year of college. Where did that time go? Everything was so fast! But at the same time it's been so slow! I have never been counting down days more in my life. Every day I have a number in my head that gets me through the day...it's the number of days left until I move back to Parker FOR GOOD! Today is 42..tomorrow 41....and then only 40!! It's kind of a weird obsession, I know, but it helps me. As much as I love school, I don't have my Brian or my family here to make life complete. That will all change, though, in a short time and then I won't ever have to complain about it again.

I went home for Zachary's graduation a couple weeks ago, and that was fantastic. I flew out of Salt Lake on Tuesday and then on Friday, Brian and I and a friend drove back to Rexburg. Brian was able to stay with me for the rest of the three day weekend and it was perfect. We needed that time together! The day he left, I started having weird cramps that would occur after I would eat. I didn't realize it was only after I ate, so I kept on eating normal. I got to be so miserable that I decided to go to the doctor. He couldn't diagnose me with anything and just said I had some sort of digestive virus. But he gave me an IV while I was there and I got two liters of saline put in me! My roommate told me later that I had looked like I had gained a few pounds...I didn't even notice! All I knew is I felt better because I wasn't dehydrated at all anymore. But still, the cramps didn't stop for a few days and I missed some school because of it. So between going home and then being sick...I got a behind in a couple classes. So much so that I had to drop piano lessons and choir so I could have more time. (And because I hadn't practiced piano or been to choir rehearsals in two weeks.) But I'm okay with it because I have so much more time now! I'll for sure be able to keep my grades up and make this semester a successful one.

Also with all this extra time, I discovered the McKay library and I have started to remember how much I love to read! It's such an escape for me and it brings me so much joy. Last week I read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Larua Schlessinger and this week I'm reading Eat to Live by Dr. Joel Fuhrman. I also am reading Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom. As you can see, my interests are varied. :) I would LOVE to have some book suggestions from anyone and everyone.

Brian and I had our engagement pictures taken while I was Colorado! My wonderful sister Jenny took them and she has been working away at editing them for us. We are pleased with how they turned out and I can't wait to share them all on Facebook. Other than that, not much has happened with the wedding...I may or may not be avoiding all the stress it causes for me and for others. I kind of just hope it will plan itself! Of course, I'm soooooo excited to be married, and I do want a beautiful wedding, but I just don't know how to do so many things. And so I don't know what to tell people when they offer to help. Like I said...I'm just waiting for it to all come together on it's own. :)

I love him so much! He is everything I ever wanted.